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by MimiLaBelle » Sun Oct 18, 2015 4:51 pm
Hello everyone
I have been following this forum for long now but couldn't register before for some unknown reason.
Here is my story and I hope someone can help. I came to UK Sept 2009, claimed Asylum at the airport as hey were trying to return me back to Africa, spent 3 days in detention centre before being sent to Liverpool where I live now. From sept 2009 I had to have a medical report and the centre being in London it took long before being able to make my medical files.
So finally by december 2010 the medical foundation was able t provide Home Office my medical report. I was diagnosed with Post Trauma Stress Disorder. But by the time Home Office received my report political situations changed in my home country (Ivory Coast) so Home Office based their refusal to my asylum in March 2011on that basis and that I could return back home and was given the right to appeal. Which I did with my solicitor, went to court HO had no questions for me, they believed everything but situations have changed in my country so I can go back, Judge had nothing to say too so My solicitor did what they could to put other raisons like weak peace, people still being killed and the new president is not accepted by everyone and the fact ex president is in prison in Hague tensions are still very high even today and also the fact I have made a life for myself here (from zero english speaking to Level 2 English certificate, GCSE MATHS, and was at that moment sitting GCSE English).
The judge still refused to grant me asylum and we were given right to appeal again which I did with my solicitor as they believed in my case and were still representing me. I have been going out with a British citizen and we were living together, he always wanted to get involved but I didn't want because I didn't want to take away what really unite us: Love but finally after being together for nearly 2years we got married in October 2011 and I was still waiting on a date to go back back to court and wasn't hearing anything.
So when I called my case worker to speak to him about changes in circumstances, he told I should put letters and statements, certificates and pictures of my relationships (family, friends, religious) which I did and I was told I could get maybe indefinite leave or other kind of leave if I withdraw my appeal against the HO, then I was doing my Access Course To Nursing so I accepted thinking I may miss out on an University offer if my case hasn't been decided so in April 22 of year 2012 I was granted 3years DL based on failed asylum to later found out I can't use that to go to Uni, first frustration after hard work and sleepless night studying and heavily pregnant, actually gave birth same month I graduated. My friends are now qualified Midwives and Nurses this year and I have been doing care work since my daughter is a year old.
Unfortunately my relationship broke down, I was hanging tied on it because this is my second child, the first one I had him when I was 16 he is fully black, my daughter is mixed race and if that relationship broke down who's going to understand that it is not my fault if things didn't work out. I was verbally, sexually, mentally and physically abused by my ex, but I always protected him, I stayed but there was ONE THING I couldn't accept and that was for him to always say I married him to stay in this country, called me any names in this world, sometimes I wished I was sent back to my country because if this was the price to pay to stay in this country, I couldn't carry on paying it for another 10years and still my man will say my feelings were never genuine.
I am a strong person, lost both my parents when I was a child, I fought to better my life and I am still fighting for it, I put in an application to extend my stay in UK the 16/04/15 and received acknowledgement and everything but 6months now no decision, I am a homecare support worker, I can't control being depressed specially as I am not hearing anything back, I am trying to be brave for my daughter as I am the main carer, she goes to her dad Sat and comes back Sun but there is so much one can take. I applied for an apprenticeship with a Bank and I passed online process, telephone interview and have to go this week coming for the face to face, but I am asked to bring in my passport which HO refused to give me, not even a certified copy, I am going against people that don't have that kind of problems, how is that going to give me a fair chance? Them knowing I have an outstanding application with HO? I was told straight on the phone after the questions to wait 3minutes like and was told you have been successful so they must have been impressed. I just know no one will never tell me it is because of that we can't choose you but defo it can go against me. These people are ruining people lives and they have no idea of how much they do
Sorry for long text but I am very bad at the moments and needed to get it out and share it with some people and perhaps some hope?
many thanks
