Hello everyone,
1st of all thanks for all the information provided here, I've read this thread
immigration-for-family-members/adult-de ... 87771.html
and others, in addition to the gov's website, requirements, and the grounds for refusal document.
That said, I have a specific question regarding my mother, who I'm trying to get over here.
My mother is 63 and has schizophrenia, a really bad case of schizophrenia that is, that she had for as long as I remember.
I'm from a country in the Middle East, and in our culture, we don't have care homes like here in the UK, kids don't leave their parent's homes and let their parents be on their own. my father passed away, my sister got married and moved abroad with her husband, and I left home in 2015 to work abroad, before coming to the UK in 2017 on a Spouse visa (I still don't have my indefinite leave/passport, I'll be eligible for one in October). Which left my younger brother to care for our mother. By that I mean:
1- going to the Dr once a month on her behalf as she, for the longest time, refused to admit she has any illness (that's how advanced her situation is).
2- got her medicine and followed up on her taking it (along with calls from me and my sister, almost daily, to convince her/beg her to just take the medicine so the "tortures" as she'd call them to ease).
3- cooking for her, washing her clothes, etc...
now my brother is about to leave abroad to join his GF and start a new job he got an offer for! and therefore the only solution is to bring her over here to live with me and my wife and stepson.
I have a few questions:
1) would the fact that I don't have British citizenship yet affect the application?
2) in the case of schizophrenia, it's really really complicated situation when it comes to "long term daily care"; for example: my mom can take a shower on her own, however, if you don't negotiate with her for weeks, she wouldn't. it's a known fact that schizophrenia patients aren't really big on hygiene. OR, my mother can indeed turn the stove on, put the
chicken in a pot with water on let it cook, but more than once, we found that she "cooked" the food for a few minutes and ate it semi-raw or undercooked which is dangerous. that's why we try and keep the fridge full of safely cooked food so she doesn't venture on her own and get herself ill or worse. also, for example, she can brush her teeth, but she needs to be told (and negotiate) doing it, her teeth got so bad because of this over the years that we had to plant a full set of teeth, all of them. Also, she can, sometimes, leave the house and go to the shop, but the last time she did that, she didn't come back for hours, and my brother went to the police and they put an alert on her and he literally drove around the city trying to find her.. she came back home hours later and told us she "was in heaven, where "god" told her to go".. a few days later after lots of investigation and negotiating she told she was lying down in some random building's entrance as "god" told her she has an apartment there and it's heaven...
so.. this is to say, she's not immobile, she is, but it's not safe if she leaves on her own.
She can do daily tasks, but she needs constant reminders, like a toddler, to do them, or for someone to do them for her.. including her medicine, we call her 3 times a day to remind her to take the meds on time, and we can only hope that she is actually taking them.
so question 3) in that case, would the Home Office take that into consideration or not?
4) are there any solicitors who have experience in this kind of cases? ADR wit mental illness? I contacted a couple but none of them dealt with this kind of case before and I don't need to pay a lawyer to tell me "you need to provide 1,2,3".. I know what is needed, (thanks in big part to this forum as well), I need someone with this specific experience, can you recommend please??
notes:
- her mom and dad passed away
- all her sisters and brothers are in her home country, my mom lives with us not in her home country
- there are actually no facilities or services to tend for people like my mom where I come from! one centre that provides daily activities (not round-the-clock care or such) is available but only takes people up to 60 years old!
- we don't have specialized carers for this kind of thing, we have nurses or cleaners who can come to do a specific job.
My mother needs a different kind of care.
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I said "us" because as I said, even when we get married and move abroad, the family house is still considered "our" house 
I hope I can bring her to the UK through the ADR visa and look after her. Any update about your mother's visa? Would you be able to message me regarding the solicitor as I am new in the forum and not yet allowed to send messages? Would really appreciate your insight.
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