I entered the US in 1997, legally, as a tourist, and got married to a green card holder. I applied for a green card through him but withdrew my application because I got a divorce in 2001. However, at the time I was also under H1B visa, and before the visa expired, I got married (second time) to an american citizen (who was born in the US). We got married in 2002, and ever since we have been living together, a real marriage. I married for the right reason, which is love. Unfortunately, my husband has not yet applied for me and does not intend to do so soon. That puts me in a terrible position: do I leave him and get a divorce so I won't continue to be illegal? What about our marriage? I was legal when we married, but ever since I have been illegal. I have not passed any law in my life, and now I am scared. Why won't he apply for me? Good question.
He has all kinds of 'issues' why he does not want to apply. They issues have nothing to do with me, but with him. He got himself in trouble before he met me and so he does not want to 'expose' himself now. Meanwhile, I am under a lot of stress because I have become a prisoner in my own home. I cannot drive or work, and I am paying a high price for his problems with the law. Do I qualify under the WAVA law, which provided protection for abused women? As much as I love him, it is torture to live this way. Also, even if he does apply for me many years from now, what will happen with the fact I have been here legally ever since I married him? Could I ever adjust my status or is it a lost case? I have tried talking to him about it, but he always tells me not to worry. I am 30 and I don't want to live my life as an outlaw. What are my options? Should I file self petition based on mental abuse? I feel that whatever I do here I am going to lose. If I file on my own, then I basically have to call this marriage quits. This is extremely difficult because we love each other and obviously I did not marry him for papers if I was willing to live this way for two years. However, nothing guarantees he will ever apply for me. And as I said, what are the implications even if he does in so and son years from now? I am fluent in the English language, and very much wish to contribute to the American society. Who can help me? I know my husband will get very upset if I contact any lawyers or psychologists to seek help. I entered the marriage in Bona Fida and did not expect such dificulties from him. I feel it is totally unfair situation for me, and I am afraid of my own shadow. This obviosuly is a very special case. If I do file on my own, I know this will cause some serious problems to my husband. Should I wait? For how long? What are the advantages and disadvantages of waiting or taking my chances? I have been here more than 7 years and totally dependent on my husband now. Please advise.
Thank you.
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