I will suggest you send all the documents and reference you have to them, and allow them to make a decision.
I don't think you will necessary need the medical insurance.
Article 24 says that their should be equal treatment. Therefore if you are exempted from medical insurance if your wife was working, the opposite should also apply if you are working.
Directive 2004/38EC wrote:
Article 24
Equal treatment
1. Subject to such specific provisions as are expressly
provided for in the Treaty and secondary law, all Union citizens
residing on the basis of this Directive in the territory of the
host Member State shall enjoy equal treatment with the
nationals of that Member State within the scope of the Treaty.
The benefit of this right shall be extended to family members
who are not nationals of a Member State and who have the
right of residence or permanent residence.
2. By way of derogation from paragraph 1, the host
Member State shall not be obliged to confer entitlement to
social assistance during the first three months of residence or,
where appropriate, the longer period provided for in Article
14(4)(b), nor shall it be obliged, prior to acquisition of the right
of permanent residence, to grant maintenance aid for studies,
including vocational training, consisting in student grants or
student loans to persons other than workers, self-employed
persons, persons who retain such status and members of their
families.
