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pregnant n domestic violence victim

Post by mrss » Wed Aug 04, 2010 2:14 pm

hello---
i hope some one can help me out here.
i came in UK on fioncee visa and then got married three months ago and i,m on spouse visa now of two years ---my id card is with my husband .he keeps that in his custody.
i,m a victim of domestic violence, verbally ,emotionally and physically.i have to look after his two children who visit him every week, two boys of aged 10 and 9..they have started kicking me as well. my mother in law also snubs and order me all day---i have no right to talk to my family , yes i can speajk to them but just in prescence of my husband or his mother.i,m not allowed to call them or receive their call in my husband's abscence..from morning to night , i have to clean , cook, wash,iron , and all the house load .he taunts me all the time, screams at me, threats me to send me back, ----
i,m now pregnant, i was tolerating every thing up till now--but i ,m unable to do so much workj at home now, i feel sick and weak alf
l the time.he snubs me all day for now doing house work properly.tries to kill my unborn child as well as he has tried twice to kick my belly---
please can any one help me---a week ago he tried to beat me, infront of his sons--i left the house in his abscene n i,m at my friend;s place now---
can sm one tell me wts my visa status now---i,m on spouse visa of two years--jusr recentle married for two months.before i was on his fioncee visa.
can this baby help me in establishing my status over here, i,m really scared n dont really want to go back to him---shall i abort this baby.
how long a divorce takes here--how long can i live in UK.
he has kept my id card in his custody n i cant even register to a new surgery in this pregnant situation---i need help--

Wanderer
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Post by Wanderer » Wed Aug 04, 2010 2:30 pm

Do you have proof ie Police report?

My advise is get away from this man, your immigration worries are the least of your problems.

Normally DV victims get ILR, but you need proof.

You cannot divorce until married for one year. Did you not know this man before your married him?
An chéad stad eile Stáisiún Uí Chonghaile....

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Post by mochyn » Wed Aug 04, 2010 2:59 pm

You need help via Social Services or through Citizens advice bureau.
You can contact specialist sites such as http://www.stopdomesticviolence.org.uk/

As Wanderer has said victims of Domestic violence need not fear losing their immigration status so don't let anybody try to frighten you that way.
DV victims get ILR if it can be proved

http://www.ukba.homeoffice.gov.uk/asylu ... cviolence/

Get help as soon as possib

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Post by pennylessinindia » Sat Aug 07, 2010 3:01 am

I posted a phone number on your other post do call them they will support you .
pennyless

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Post by vinny » Sat Aug 07, 2010 3:14 am

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Post by Obie » Sat Aug 07, 2010 2:23 pm

I think you need to inform the police if you have not already done so.

I take no pleasure in giving such advice, but if they were as possessive as you say they are/were, they are likely to chase you done and inflict more harm.

Your best bet will be to apply for a non-molestation order, preventing him from approaching you.

With that in place, you can apply under the DV Route as Vinny and other members suggested.

Try and get a medical report, attesting to the fact that any bruises or scars you have on your body is consistent with Domestic Violence.

Try contacting women refuge , as they will be in the possession of assisting you aswell.
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Post by mochyn » Sat Aug 07, 2010 3:30 pm

Why have you returned to this site on Friday when you were told to seek help on Wednesday?
The longer you delay this matter the less chance you have of being believed eg bruises etc
You need help NOW

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Re: pregnant n domestic violence victim

Post by thunder » Sat Aug 07, 2010 10:53 pm

mrss wrote: he has kept my id card in his custody n i cant even register to a new surgery in this pregnant situation---i need help--
to change you clinic or GP you won't necessary need an ID card, just you NHS number which you can obtain from your current GP. Hope you'll be strong enough to move on and get help you need now.

Take care of yourself and the baby you are carrying- that's far more important that all the rest. Try to find your community centre or a church of your nationality, look for help everywhere and you'll get it.

All the best

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Re: pregnant n domestic violence victim

Post by alikhan28 » Sat Aug 07, 2010 11:21 pm

mrss wrote:hello---
i hope some one can help me out here.
i came in UK on fioncee visa and then got married three months ago and i,m on spouse visa now of two years ---my id card is with my husband .he keeps that in his custody.
i,m a victim of domestic violence, verbally ,emotionally and physically.i have to look after his two children who visit him every week, two boys of aged 10 and 9..they have started kicking me as well. my mother in law also snubs and order me all day---i have no right to talk to my family , yes i can speajk to them but just in prescence of my husband or his mother.i,m not allowed to call them or receive their call in my husband's abscence..from morning to night , i have to clean , cook, wash,iron , and all the house load .he taunts me all the time, screams at me, threats me to send me back, ----
i,m now pregnant, i was tolerating every thing up till now--but i ,m unable to do so much workj at home now, i feel sick and weak alf
l the time.he snubs me all day for now doing house work properly.tries to kill my unborn child as well as he has tried twice to kick my belly---
please can any one help me---a week ago he tried to beat me, infront of his sons--i left the house in his abscene n i,m at my friend;s place now---
can sm one tell me wts my visa status now---i,m on spouse visa of two years--jusr recentle married for two months.before i was on his fioncee visa.
can this baby help me in establishing my status over here, i,m really scared n dont really want to go back to him---shall i abort this baby.
how long a divorce takes here--how long can i live in UK.
he has kept my id card in his custody n i cant even register to a new surgery in this pregnant situation---i need help--
First thing is to contact your GP and explain everything and what stress you are going through and get a report or letter from yours GP.

Then contact yours social security services and ask them for help.Told them all the domestic violence and try to get some proofs.

Get witness statements from all yours relatives and friends.

Also registered yours complaint to police and told them they tried to lock you and abused you.

After getting all this evidence make an application for ILR based on Domestic violence.Normally domestic violence applications are granted if you have evidence.

Ali

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