ROR after divorce - no support from ex husband

Hello everyone,

I would really appreciate if I could get some advice on the below issue of mine.

So in January 2012 I obtained a 5 years stay based on marriage with my EEU national husband. Expiring in January 2017.

At the beginning of the marriage, both of us were working till about 1 year when he was sacked from his work place. Since then he hasn’t really been working on a permanent and long term basis. Since we married, I never stopped working and I’ve been financially supporting him.

To cut everything short, the relationship got worse due to his behaviour.

I applied for a divorce in April 2015. Unfortunately things didn’t go on so smoothly as he has been delaying the procedure when letters are sent to him. Thankfully it seems it’s about to be finalised, decree nisi has just been issued and I strongly believe decree absolute will issued early next year.

From what I have been reading here I will have to apply for ROR. I would like to do it as soon as I receive the decree absolute. I understand it better to apply as soon as possible?

However…

My ex has clearly made me aware that he will not cooperate at all and will not provide me with any document. (I actually believe him because I applied for a course at college last year and he refused to give me his passport for me to send to Student Finance so I can finalise my application. I ended up paying for the full college fees myself. and we were living together at that time)

So I will have to apply without providing any documents from him as he wouldn’t give me anything.

From my side I have all my payslips from the date of marriage till now

I would really appreciate if someone could advise me on what to do and/or if there are any other alternatives. I’m really confused, I read about applying on exclusively on a personal basis but I can’t find much information about that.

Thanks in advance…

ladymiss wrote:Hello everyone,

I would really appreciate if I could get some advice on the below issue of mine.

So in January 2012 I obtained a 5 years stay based on marriage with my EEU national husband. Expiring in January 2017.

At the beginning of the marriage, both of us were working till about 1 year when he was sacked from his work place. Since then he hasn’t really been working on a permanent and long term basis. Since we married, I never stopped working and I’ve been financially supporting him.

To cut everything short, the relationship got worse due to his behaviour.

I applied for a divorce in April 2015.

...

So I will have to apply without providing any documents from him as he wouldn’t give me anything.

From my side I have all my payslips from the date of marriage till now

I would really appreciate if someone could advise me on what to do and/or if there are any other alternatives. I’m really confused, I read about applying on exclusively on a personal basis but I can’t find much information about that.

Thanks in advance…

This HO guidance covers situations where an applicant cannot provide all supporting evidence:
https://www.gov.uk/government/uploads/s ... s_v2_0.pdf
- see page 31+

It may help you to understand how the caseworker will handle your application.

Good luck.

Thank you noajthan

Have you or has anyone experienced this kind of situation and what was the outcome?

ladymiss wrote:Thank you noajthan

Have you or has anyone experienced this kind of situation and what was the outcome?

Heartbreak yes; RoR no.

So sorry to hear your story. I think I might be of help if you can answer the following questions.

1. What date exactly do you get married?

2. Be specific when did he stop working?

3. Do you know where he's been working (address )

4. Some proof of address when you both live together, but if you don't have it that's okay as it's not mandatory that you both have to stay under same roof while married.

Lastly do you intend to use lawyer or diy? Make sure you read the link send to you by noajthan it will give basic ideal and calm down in other to get it right.

If you can get back to me then I will be able to help from my experience.

Good luck

Wise wrote:So sorry to hear your story. I think I might be of help if you can answer the following questions.

1. What date exactly do you get married?

2. Be specific when did he stop working?

3. Do you know where he's been working (address )

4. Some proof of address when you both live together, but if you don't have it that's okay as it's not mandatory that you both have to stay under same roof while married.

Lastly do you intend to use lawyer or diy? Make sure you read the link send to you by noajthan it will give basic ideal and calm down in other to get it right.

If you can get back to me then I will be able to help from my experience.

Good luck

Hi Wise,

Thanks a lot for your response. I haven't been around since my last post. My divorce was finally finalised in March 2016. I have no more contact with my ex and tbh, he doesn't want to provide anything and he says he has no document to give me. To answer your question:

1: We got married in August 2011 (proxy) and was issued RC January 2012
2: I'm really not sure on this as I have no documents. about a year our couple of months after I was issued my RC
3: I remember the company he was working for when we applied for my RC
4: I have a copy of our lease when we were living together. No utility as it was all inclusive.

I don't actually know if I have to apply for ROR or wait till January and apply for PR or any other route. I have seen 2 solicitors with both giving me different advices. I am still confused. One of them said I wait and apply for PR in January which will cost £2000

I will really appreciate if I can get any help from here or if anyone can pm me the contact details of a competent solicitor to assist me.I will really appreciate any advice from anyone.

I don't know if this matters but I'm also in a relationship with another EU national who says he is willing to give me any support if needed.



Thanks in advance

From what I understand with your case, you haven't prepared for anything regarding your renewal of you RC.

My first opinion will be.
For your application to be successful you either need to proof your ex husband working history from Aug 2011 or from Jan 2012 till March 2016 when you received your absolute. Also if you're not sure that he has been working since all this period then both ROR/PR is not sure to be granted. Because if you ask Home Office to check for his employment history and come back not accurate then there's a problem.

However, you mentioned that you have another relationship with another EU. If that is the case you may apply a fresh with him if the other one fail provided the new EU is working or studying you can apply for a fresh RC.

Good luck.

Wise wrote:...

However, you mentioned that you have another relationship with another EU. If that is the case you may apply a fresh with him if the other one fail provided the new EU is working or studying you can apply for a fresh RC.

Good luck.

For an EFM RC to fly something like 2 years evidence of a durable relationship 'akin to marriage' would be required.
Plus evidence no other relationship was subsisting with anyone else.
That may be a big ask at this time.

Thanks Noajthan for your input.