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by prettypolitical » Thu Aug 20, 2009 5:30 pm
Alisonpal hopes this helps!!
Your Honour,
I am pleading for you help and intervention to bring the date of our hearing forward as my personal circumstances have become of a compelling and compassionate nature.
Since I returned home to the United Kingdom, without my husband on the 13th January 2009, it has been an emotional rollercoaster and my family’s lives have ended up in turmoil.
I feel that we as a family are being deprived of being a family unit. We chose to marry each other because we love each other dearly and want to spend the rest of our lives together.
However, there is a more substantial effect on the wellbeing of my children. It is a fundamental right for children to have the care, love, moral guidance of both parents. All of my children identify (joe bloggs) as their father and are being emotionally and physiologically affected in detrimental ways.
Our daughter (cuteypie) appears to be the one who has been affected by this the most, as she has now become incontinent at night and also soiling the bed. (Cuteypie) has extremely challenging behaviour which has developed in the absence of (joe bloggs). I have taken our daughter (cuteypie)to the General Practitioner who has advised that from a medical professional point of view that this is due to her experiencing stress, being parted from her father for such a long period of time.
I can not begin to express the daily task I endure to manage my daughters behaviour, she is displaying violent outbursts towards me and most days I am at breaking point. I do not feel that anyone can fully understand that we are a family and we are not just a number, we can only function as a family unit if there are the correct components to make that happen. (cuteypie)is currently under the Primary Care Trust Nursery Nurse as referred by the GP to try and support us, however she has advised that this situation will not be rectified until the return of her father. I am concerned of the long term effects this will have on her development.
All of our children are affected by this in one way or another. Our other daughter (cutiegirl) is questioning my husband's whereabouts and has on occasions asked if he was dead, at five years old she is too young to have this sort of worry, and hearing this from such a young innocent child broke my heart. Of late (cuteygirl) has started to blame me for her father not being around, although I have tried to explain the situation it is very difficult for all of them to understand. (cuteygirl) has become verbally abusive and aggressive towards myself and other members of my family.
Our son (sweetboy) just says "Daddy" all of the time as I am sure he can not make sense of this either as he is only two years old. My husband is missing out on so many milestones of each child’s development, this is something we can never replace and nothing can ever make up for this. All the school assemblies, sports day, parents evening, watching and listen to our son talk are just passed over in a conversation, when we should be doing all of these things together.
(joe bloggs) is a very active father and takes pride in looking after his family.
My husband has been my strength , although my strength was taken away from me on the 13th January 2009, when I left my husband in (wherever) and my life has collapsed, slowly day by day.
Through this situation I have been diagnosed as having severe depression and skin problems caused through stress and anxiety. I am taking medication to help alleviate this. I am really struggling to cope on a day to day basis and I don’t want to live like this life anymore, I want my life back and I want my children to have their life back, just to see them smile again would be really nice. At the moment my home is full of pain and runs on high emotion.
If you would like any medical records either from my GP or hospital records.
I anticipate your response,
You will need to tailor this to suit your situation, I did put a little bit more in although some of the details were far too personal to post.
This is what helped me.
???REUNITED???
