Spouse visa- advice needed!

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if i dont like it his family can find him plenty of other girls in india.

Chauvinistic is a really mild term for this...it is more arrogance than anyone needs to bear from an immensely nasty person.

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Hi Butterfly

Basically i know this sounds a little confused and weird BUT i have no intention on divorce and wish to stay married to my husband. HOWEVER i am not comfortable signing this form because i feel in some ways i am being treated with no respect and being forced to do everything he wants and this will give him a fast route to becoming a british citizen with all the benefits and priviledges of this country, and then he can invite his parents to settle here straight away- i will have no say in this.

Just have a second look at how you wrote this, and I think that your main question becomes obvious. You don't want his parents to come here and live in your house, which is a legitimate concern (it would certainly be a line for me!). And now you are afraid that your signature is making it easier for him to bring his parents over, so you would be acting against your own interests.

I think you should separate these two issues. If you value your marriage, you should sign his papers. It may seem like your moment of strength, but all you could achieve is to hurt him, and that would certainly not help your relationship.

The issue with his parents is a typical culture clash. He has one set of expectations inherited from his background, and you have another. It would be a shame if this is the one irreconcilable difference between you, but you will never find out unless you discuss it. If you cannot find a compromise, then that is a serious warning sign.