Non EEA Spouse (American) of Dual British/Irish Husband
Posted: Wed Jun 30, 2010 10:16 pm
Hi all --
I am new to the Forum here, but I have been reading over the topics for a while.
My husband is dual British/Irish, and we have a Special Needs 6-year-old son who is American/British/Irish. I am American. We got married here in California almost 8 years ago, and have been living here in California for the past 10 years. I'm disabled and on Social Security (technically SSI, an income-based disability payment, essentially disability welfare/dole, I don't know what the UK equivalent is). My husband's not a citizen here, has no chance of becoming one, and as his mum is elderly and my husband also needs a major surgery and is unemployed, he wants to go back home to Northern Ireland. I applied for the EEA Family Permit (as we'd never pass the means test for the UK Spouse Visa, nor do we have the money to apply) and did the biometrics and just sent off the documents to the Los Angeles Consulate. Don't know if they'll approve me or not.
I've never been to Northern Ireland or even anywhere in Europe, and I am so stressed out over all this that all I do is cry. The more I've been reading, the more worried I get. My husband keeps telling me that everything will be fine, that after he recovers from surgery, he'll be able to get a job and we'll be okay. His elderly mum is taking us in, but she's 80 and lives in Council Housing. I just don't know if I'm doing the right thing. It's been left to me to try and figure all of this out. My husband was born in NI and lived all his life there til he came here, but he was never in Council Housing and never on benefits and so he doesn't know a thing about it. Not only that, but it's been 10 years since he lived there, and a lot has changed I am sure. He's always worked in labor or restaurant jobs and so I don't know how he thinks he's still going to be able to do that after the surgery, as he's over 40, besides. The minimum recovery time for his surgery would be 6 months, and that's assuming that all goes well and he can get physical rehabilitation.
From what I have read here, non-EEA Spouses are not allowed to claim benefits, but then someone elsewhere has said that I may be eligible for benefits in the UK as the US has a Social Security reciprocity agreement with the UK. Does that mean that I can qualify for benefits over there? I am assuming that I would have to go through a disability vetting process all over again, as the US one doesn't count there? Either way, once I leave here, I lose my SSI.
We fell on hard times here when my husband became unemployed, and then as our rent was being raised we could not afford it and so my parents took us all in. It's pretty hard to save money when you're on welfare, and so we have very little savings. My parents are not able to help us out as they are having financial difficulties of their own.
What's going to happen to me, going to the UK on a Spouse EEA Family Permit when we get to the UK and my husband applies for benefits? I know he and our son fully qualify for benefits and it's okay for them to get them, but as my EEA Family Permit is based on him being a Jobseker, if he does not have a job after that 3-month grace period, am I going to get chucked out when my EEA Family Permit expires in 6 months? At the very least I assume they will not allow me a Residence Card? My husband will have to see a doctor immediately, and so how can he qualify as a Jobseeker? I don't know if I can work or not, quite honestly. I had a series of small strokes, and some days I am all here and some days I am not. I have a college education but I never completed my degree. I am certainly not too proud to work any kind of job (and I have done in the past!) but sometimes I get easily confused and don't process information correctly. We certainly aren't self-sufficient, so after my EEA Family Permit expires, is the UK going to want me out? We're basing the EEA Family Permit on my husband being Irish, but of course as my husband and our son are both British and Irish, it's only me that's affected.
I have phoned the Citizens Advice Bureau in Belfast, and they referred me to the Law Centre for NI, but the Law Centre told me that they cannot help us unless either my husband or myself is in NI. We cannot afford a lawyer or immigration consultant here, we can barely afford our living expenses, trying to save up for plane fare.
I guess what I would like to know if there is any point to me going over at all? I am a burden here and it looks like I will just be a burden to everyone there, too. My husband does not want to go over on his own, he says the most important thing is to keep our family together. In all honesty, I am not sure I could manage here on my own, with our young son, without him. And my husband couldn't take our son with him, as he would have no one to look after him when my husband is in hospital or recovering from surgery, and while our son's Special Needs are certainly not severe, at age 6 he is too young to be looking after himself and getting himself to school, of course, and as my husband's mum is 80, well...
I am at a loss, and just don't know what to do. I'm on another forum, but this one seems to cover a broader range of topics so I thought I would see if anyone had any advice. I am worried that I am going to end up in the UK and when my Family Permit expires, they will tell me to leave, and I won't even have the money to go. I hate being in this situation, and I hate being a burden on my own social system, let alone someone else's. My husband keeps telling me that it will all be okay, we just have to get over there, that the UK immigration laws will have compassion clauses and use common sense and not want to break up families, but after reading all the things online, I just don't know.
If anyone has had an experience like this, or knows about it, I would appreciate hearing from you. Sorry this was so long, I hoped to answer any possible questions that people may have about the whys and wherefores.
Thank you.
I am new to the Forum here, but I have been reading over the topics for a while.
My husband is dual British/Irish, and we have a Special Needs 6-year-old son who is American/British/Irish. I am American. We got married here in California almost 8 years ago, and have been living here in California for the past 10 years. I'm disabled and on Social Security (technically SSI, an income-based disability payment, essentially disability welfare/dole, I don't know what the UK equivalent is). My husband's not a citizen here, has no chance of becoming one, and as his mum is elderly and my husband also needs a major surgery and is unemployed, he wants to go back home to Northern Ireland. I applied for the EEA Family Permit (as we'd never pass the means test for the UK Spouse Visa, nor do we have the money to apply) and did the biometrics and just sent off the documents to the Los Angeles Consulate. Don't know if they'll approve me or not.
I've never been to Northern Ireland or even anywhere in Europe, and I am so stressed out over all this that all I do is cry. The more I've been reading, the more worried I get. My husband keeps telling me that everything will be fine, that after he recovers from surgery, he'll be able to get a job and we'll be okay. His elderly mum is taking us in, but she's 80 and lives in Council Housing. I just don't know if I'm doing the right thing. It's been left to me to try and figure all of this out. My husband was born in NI and lived all his life there til he came here, but he was never in Council Housing and never on benefits and so he doesn't know a thing about it. Not only that, but it's been 10 years since he lived there, and a lot has changed I am sure. He's always worked in labor or restaurant jobs and so I don't know how he thinks he's still going to be able to do that after the surgery, as he's over 40, besides. The minimum recovery time for his surgery would be 6 months, and that's assuming that all goes well and he can get physical rehabilitation.
From what I have read here, non-EEA Spouses are not allowed to claim benefits, but then someone elsewhere has said that I may be eligible for benefits in the UK as the US has a Social Security reciprocity agreement with the UK. Does that mean that I can qualify for benefits over there? I am assuming that I would have to go through a disability vetting process all over again, as the US one doesn't count there? Either way, once I leave here, I lose my SSI.
We fell on hard times here when my husband became unemployed, and then as our rent was being raised we could not afford it and so my parents took us all in. It's pretty hard to save money when you're on welfare, and so we have very little savings. My parents are not able to help us out as they are having financial difficulties of their own.
What's going to happen to me, going to the UK on a Spouse EEA Family Permit when we get to the UK and my husband applies for benefits? I know he and our son fully qualify for benefits and it's okay for them to get them, but as my EEA Family Permit is based on him being a Jobseker, if he does not have a job after that 3-month grace period, am I going to get chucked out when my EEA Family Permit expires in 6 months? At the very least I assume they will not allow me a Residence Card? My husband will have to see a doctor immediately, and so how can he qualify as a Jobseeker? I don't know if I can work or not, quite honestly. I had a series of small strokes, and some days I am all here and some days I am not. I have a college education but I never completed my degree. I am certainly not too proud to work any kind of job (and I have done in the past!) but sometimes I get easily confused and don't process information correctly. We certainly aren't self-sufficient, so after my EEA Family Permit expires, is the UK going to want me out? We're basing the EEA Family Permit on my husband being Irish, but of course as my husband and our son are both British and Irish, it's only me that's affected.
I have phoned the Citizens Advice Bureau in Belfast, and they referred me to the Law Centre for NI, but the Law Centre told me that they cannot help us unless either my husband or myself is in NI. We cannot afford a lawyer or immigration consultant here, we can barely afford our living expenses, trying to save up for plane fare.
I guess what I would like to know if there is any point to me going over at all? I am a burden here and it looks like I will just be a burden to everyone there, too. My husband does not want to go over on his own, he says the most important thing is to keep our family together. In all honesty, I am not sure I could manage here on my own, with our young son, without him. And my husband couldn't take our son with him, as he would have no one to look after him when my husband is in hospital or recovering from surgery, and while our son's Special Needs are certainly not severe, at age 6 he is too young to be looking after himself and getting himself to school, of course, and as my husband's mum is 80, well...
I am at a loss, and just don't know what to do. I'm on another forum, but this one seems to cover a broader range of topics so I thought I would see if anyone had any advice. I am worried that I am going to end up in the UK and when my Family Permit expires, they will tell me to leave, and I won't even have the money to go. I hate being in this situation, and I hate being a burden on my own social system, let alone someone else's. My husband keeps telling me that it will all be okay, we just have to get over there, that the UK immigration laws will have compassion clauses and use common sense and not want to break up families, but after reading all the things online, I just don't know.
If anyone has had an experience like this, or knows about it, I would appreciate hearing from you. Sorry this was so long, I hoped to answer any possible questions that people may have about the whys and wherefores.
Thank you.