Oh dear.maya nalya wrote:I am really scared to call the number 111 so he can get help, i dont know what he will do when he finds out i am trying to get him help, i really live in fear yet i want to help me get better. I am really stranded and i can not go to women shelter, how i speak bad about him, he's my baby daddy. Yes i know his done some bad things like close me inside the house and take the key when he goes out because he dont trust people that he think they will change me, he refusing me to have friends, he doesnt want i work that his country women dont work and when they do, they feel big on men and he can not accept that, so many other things but i feel gulity when i think of leaving, i dont know who will help him after, i really want he get well
Calling the 111 NHS number for health advice will not trigger any forced or unwanted intervention by the authorities, it is just an advice line.
Noone will intervene for you at this stage, especially if you are locked in a room & noone is aware of your situation.
You clearly need to feel safer and be safer than you are.
Things will not change by themselves &, by the sound of it, your husband will not get cured by himself (nor overnight).
The organisations & charities and people i have mentioned should not be seen as threats.
There are good people in this country who want to help others.
In this country everyone is a person in their own right, not a package owned by someone else.
At some point you will have to take action & make tough decisions
- either for 2 of you or for all 3 of you.
I know it's easy for me to sit here typing away, sipping my green tea, I am not living your experience but I am concerned by what you have said.
In particular...
a) noone should be controlling you
&
b) you need to act for this to change
Good luck.