It is true, because you are Irish you are unprivileged. and have less rights.
Another hope is if you happen to hold another EU citizenship, e.g. UK,
if you or either one of your parents where born in the north, or
in Britain. Then you can reapply as a UK citizen and get the 4EUFAM
To apply as Irish, and qualify under treaty rights sometimes
referred to as SURINDER SINGH after the guy who won the ECJ case, you need to have been either
a) employed
b) self-employed
c) student
d) self sufficient, retired.
in another EU state before returning to Ireland with your spouse.
Failing that, I would suggest you go to your TD, and give him an
ear full.
Just to let you know who is to blame and responsible for all this,
it was
John O'Donoghue Fainna Fail, who took away post-nupital
citizenship, and it was
Micheal McDowell who took away the rights
of the family concerning automatic rights of residence.
O'Donoghue is still a TD, while McDowell got kicked out.
The Irish could, if they wished, help you, by allowing you to decide
to apply under EU or Irish rules. Thereby removing the current reverse
discrimination you suffer. I think Italy allow their citizens the choice.
But the Irish are not obliged to by EU law, as its a domestic issue
except under SURINDER SINGH conditions.
As I am not an expert, someone please correct me if I'm wrong.