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[doom]

I hope that you will kindly reply to this email..

I came to uk by marrying one uk citizen in 2001 on one year settlement visa, which was due to expire in feb 2002.

But one month before the visa expires i went back to my native country (kashmir), as i knew that we wont get on in life as partners and ididnt want to have always arguments and tension in my life( even thou it was a love marriage ), and also i had every thing going on in my home town for me , education and small business as well .. and i didnt want to come in uk on first place..

so as i was saying i went back and then she came all the way there again and eventually we made up and i got again one year settlement visa(till march 2003), so i came back to uk .


But the position now is that i am divorced (for more than 1 year ).. she wud never come with me for my indefinite when my 2nd visa expired(march 2003), and i didnt even know where my passport visa untill she gave it to me a year back ..

During the past years she has humiliated me emotionally and made me suffer financialy

only thing i did was , getting drunk and have drugs (she was the one who push me toward booze and drugs , coz she was used to to this kind of life ) . i wudnt have signed the divorced papers , but did it for just on joint ,,and wow i do wot eva she says , when i am high ..

i have got my NI number , i have been working , but wot ever i earn i spent it on drinking and drugs, as i was addicted and also i cudnt bear the fact that SHE LEFT ME ..

its only last few months i got some decent company and eventually i stoped doing drugs and also reduced on my drinking, and i have came to realized that WOW I AM faced ..

I HAVE OVER STAYED FOR 3 YEARS , BUT THEN FOR WHAT , COZ I HAD EVEN FORGOTTEN THE MEANINGS OF MY LIFE, AND PAST YEARS JUST SEEM LIKE A DREAM TO ME ..I WAS KICKED OUT OF HOUSE BY HER , OUR JOINT ACCOUNT WAS OVER DRAWN DUE TO HER HENCE NO MONEY , BEEN SLEEPING ON STREETS ... IWAS LUCKY ENGOUGH THAT I BEEN GETTING JOBS WITHOUT MY ID COZ PPL THINK THAT I WAS BORN HERE , BUT I BEEN SPENDING EVERY THING ON DRUGS ...

I DUNNO WOT TO DO COZ THOUGH I HAVVE BEEN WORKING COZ I GOT NI( didnt even claim one benefit and always payd my tax), ITS VERY HARD TO FIND A DECENT JOB WITH OUT A VALID PASSPORT

I CANT EVEN GO BACK COZ IT SEEMS POINTLESS , I LEFT MY ENGINEERING HALF WAY AND EVERY ONE I KNEW IS SOME WHERE IN LIFE, ALAS , NOT ME..

I GOT NO RELATIVES BACK HOME ,TO HELP ME, EXCEPT MY POOR OLD MUM , BUT SHE IS TOO OLD TO CARRY ON HER JOB AND IS ALL THE TIME CRYING ..

I FEEL VRY DEPRESSED , I HAVE ASKED SOME OF THE LAWYERS , BUT THEY SAID THEY CANT HELP ME .. ALL THEY KEEP ON SAYING U OVER STAYED ..BLAH BLAH BLAH,,(I DIDNT EVEN HAVE MY PASSPORT WITH ME TILL SHE GAVE IT BACK TO 10 MONTHS BACK)..
BUT WHR DO I GO NOW AFTER WAISTING 5 AND HALF GOLDEN YEARS OF MY LIFE HERE AND I END UP WITH NOTHING ..

[Jeff Albright]

Sorry to hear about all this trouble.

Your sitution is somewhat similar to that of mine 8.5 years ago but I was lucky to escape much of this kind of abuse and not to get into drugs or alcohol.

Unfortunately, the truth is that there are wicked women in this country who hunt for foreign men, lure them into marriage and bring them here for enslavement. It is similar to human trafficking but in a more disguised way, which is a lot worse and it is more difficult to pursue by law. They use the immigration laws as a tool for their wicked actions.

The bottom line is that you cannot have recourse to immigration rules in this situation unless you apply as a victim of Domestic Violence but you have to have the proof of that. You should have filed that application before your visa expired in 2003 or soon after.

Because you have overstayed by now, your position is more difficult. It is still open for you to apply under the Domestic Violence Concession but again you must have the proof of this. If you do, I would urge you to make this application asap. But bear in mind, unless you have STRONG COMPASSIONATE circumstances and sufficient proof, you may be refused as the IND would say that there is no reason why you should not have applied earlier.

Good luck