Desperate n destitute

[Zan_0104]

I'm from India and my husband is a British national. We've been married for 4 years but the three years I spent in India as I could not leave my job yet and my husband would come and visit me in India once a year, but would call each other everyday. Finally in Jan 2011, I got my spouse visa and now living with him in UK. I'm due for my ILR soon. Things were going smoothly at first, I even got a job and we are both working but we are still living at his mothers house as he does not want to leave her. Since she's very old, I had to take care of her. And recently situation starts turning bad when I found him texting with another women, the text are such that it made me question his true feeling towards me. We started arguing a lot and finally one late night he threw me out of the house along with my belongings. I was so scared as I'm still not familiar with finding my way around, I was so desperate, I didn't have enough money to go anywhere nor know anyone. I started knocking on the door and pleading with him to let me in, also telling him to do whatever he wants, flirt with other women also and I will keep my mouth shut. I'm too ashamed to return back to India, I would be better off dead than face the dishonour I would bring to my family. Please advice what to do, I can't go back home, I really can't, please help.

[Tier 4]

I'm from India and my husband is a British national. We've been married for 4 years but the three years I spent in India as I could not leave my job yet and my husband would come and visit me in India once a year, but would call each other everyday. Finally in Jan 2011, I got my spouse visa and now living with him in UK. I'm due for my ILR soon. Things were going smoothly at first, I even got a job and we are both working but we are still living at his mothers house as he does not want to leave her. Since she's very old, I had to take care of her. And recently situation starts turning bad when I found him texting with another women, the text are such that it made me question his true feeling towards me. We started arguing a lot and finally one late night he threw me out of the house along with my belongings. I was so scared as I'm still not familiar with finding my way around, I was so desperate, I didn't have enough money to go anywhere nor know anyone. I started knocking on the door and pleading with him to let me in, also telling him to do whatever he wants, flirt with other women also and I will keep my mouth shut. I'm too ashamed to return back to India, I would be better off dead than face the dishonour I would bring to my family. Please advice what to do, I can't go back home, I really can't, please help.

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[Obie]

Have you got any child by him.

[Zan_0104]

Unfortunately, we have no children.

[Amber]

What an awful man! There is help available contact Southall black sisters (click) today

You'll need some evidence of the domestic abuse, it seems you're suffering financial abuse, emotional and possible domestic abuse if he physically threw you out (pushed etc). Go to your GP and tell the dr about the abuse, get him/her to make notes on the system. If he assaults you, call the police. Good luck.

[Zan_0104]

Thanks so much for your advice. If I seek help would i be deported???
Many thanks again

[Amber]

They wouldn't try and deport you unless you didn't have valid leave, seeking help isn't a reason to deport someone if anything it would have the opposite effect. Contact the above organisation, they have caseworkers and often deal with the exact same issue. Be clear about the domestic abuse, it sounds like he wanted you as a carer for his mother. On the other hand, you could make the relationship work and apply for settlement soon once you're settled things might be easier for you. When did you enter the UK on your spouse visa, the exact date?