On spouse visa with an abusive and cheating husband. HELP!

[Caligirl33]

My husband and I have been together for almost 5 years, I moved to the UK from California in Dec 2014, married in Jan 2015 and am currently on a spouse visa. My husband has been very abusive, not physically but emotionally and financially. In Feb 2016, I had come across 2 affiars, one with his current bosses daughter who I now know he has been sleeping with and creating a relationship with behind my back. He tells both of these women he loves them. After investigating how serious this situation has been, there are many, many other woman. As far as the abuse, he lies to me to make me sorry for him that he can't pay his portion of the rent and I'll give him money. Makes me cry and tells me his debt is my fault (which I have already forked over £3000 to help him, and it keeps growing) and if I don't help him pay it off he will take me to court, as we're married (I guess) half of his debt is mine as I should help pay for it, even after his affairs?

I have been despereatly been trying to make my marriage work, but he contuines to lie, cheat and put me down for things that I shouldn't feel bad about. Telling me I am crazy and paranoid, when obviously that is not the case. He told me I needed therepy for my "issues" so, I have seen a thereapist who then actually told me his behavior is abusive to me and that this IS abuse. I have an abundance of texts and emails proving his abuse and even friends who would be willing to confirm his behavior. He constantly is making fun of me, putting me down and making me feel worthless.

I didn't have a great life in California when I got here I made a HUGE effort to change my life for the better and I did just that. I have a great job (who unfourtunetly cannot sponser me), made some amazing friends and am so much happier here.

I could go on and on.. but my question is; What are my rights to stay in UK? If being able to prove domestic violence, how likely is it that I can stay? Please help!

[Wanderer]

Do you have a record of his abuse with the authorities? ie Police etc....

[Caligirl33]

Not with police, but a thereapist and possibily a GP. As it's never been a physical attack, I havent called the police.

[Wanderer]

Not with police, but a thereapist and possibily a GP. As it's never been a physical attack, I havent called the police.

Start here;

https://www.gov.uk/government/publicati ... form-setdv

The link implies you must have ended the relationship which kind of makes sense, so I suggest you take a solictors advice and speak to a councellor, armed with the info in the link above you should expect a positive outcome staying in UK wise.

First and foremost tho, I feel you need forget the immgration aspect for now (that will resolve itself) and distance yourself from this man ASAP, and work on steadying your own personal ship.

[Caligirl33]

Not with police, but a thereapist and possibily a GP. As it's never been a physical attack, I havent called the police.

Start here;

https://www.gov.uk/government/publicati ... form-setdv

The link implies you must have ended the relationship which kind of makes sense, so I suggest you take a solictors advice and speak to a councellor, armed with the info in the link above you should expect a positive outcome staying in UK wise.

First and foremost tho, I feel you need forget the immgration aspect for now (that will resolve itself) and distance yourself from this man ASAP, and work on steadying your own personal ship.

Thank you so much, I can't tell you how much I appreicate it.

[Casa]

Wanderer has given you excellent advice. Be aware that domestic violence doesn't have to be physical, it can also be mental abuse.