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My wife is alcholic and drugy

Post by saj234 » Sat Dec 29, 2007 1:50 am

hi i am illegal in uk since 1999 .I got married in 2003 and have a 2 year old daughter.My country is pakistan anyway.
But problem is my wife a uk citizen keep changing the jobs cause of her drink and w**d habbits which is affecting our family life and especially my daughter life.I love my daughter.
I cant go to my country if i do go i will end up losing my child which i dont want .She wont be any help. We are living together but we fight like a cat and dog everyday.
I need your help people what would you do if you was in my situation.
Any help will be appreciated please

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Post by John » Sat Dec 29, 2007 9:22 am

What attempts, if any, have you made to regularise your stay in the UK. Or are you totally unknown to the authorities?
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Post by SYH » Sat Dec 29, 2007 4:22 pm

You can report her to child protective agency and in the meanwhile try to regularize your status

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Post by saj234 » Sat Dec 29, 2007 4:51 pm

Thanks John and SYH for your reply.
i did try to regularize my status in 2001 i claimed asylum and all the appeals got exhausted in 2002 . And now i am a failed asylum seeker.
But telling child protection agency is losing my daughter cause HO dont care about that anyway.They have a white only immigration policy.

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Post by SYH » Sat Dec 29, 2007 5:34 pm

saj234 wrote:Thanks John and SYH for your reply.
i did try to regularize my status in 2001 i claimed asylum and all the appeals got exhausted in 2002 . And now i am a failed asylum seeker.
But telling child protection agency is losing my daughter cause HO dont care about that anyway.They have a white only immigration policy.
No, it is not about losing your daughter it is about protection your daughter which means you are just thinking about yourself
You are illegal, That is one issue
the other issue is your abusive alcoholic wife. If she is not fit to take care of your daughter then you have to report her. Whether it helps your immigration status is not the point. You will have to come up with another way to regularize your status or you are just using your wife's problem to help your immigration issue as you have put up with if for 5 years.

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Post by sakura » Mon Dec 31, 2007 12:06 pm

saj234, I think it might be possible for you to apply for residency as the parent of a British Citizen (your daughter), but I'm not 100% about the rules for this, and I think it is usually for parents who are estranged/not together. I'll let someone else explain, but you should most certainly try to do something for your daughter now before it gets worse.

Obviously you want a way to stay in the UK with your child...have you sought any legal advice yet?

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Post by Dawie » Mon Dec 31, 2007 12:52 pm

Everyone seems to be missing the obvious way to regularise your stay: you are married to a British citizen, so why not obtain a spouse visa!

No matter what you do, you will have to leave the UK and return to your home country in order to apply for a visa for the UK. An application for a visa as the spouse of a British citizen seems the easiest and most logical way for you to obtain permission to live in the UK. If you can you should start preparing such an application, return to Pakistan and apply for a spouse visa from your nearest British embassy.

You can start here:

http://www.visa4uk.fco.gov.uk/
In a few years time we'll look back on immigration control like we look back on American prohibition in the thirties - futile and counter-productive.

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Post by JA13I » Mon Dec 31, 2007 12:55 pm

saj234 wrote:but we fight like a cat and dog everyday.
Dawie, dogs usually might not let cats apply for spouse visa! I think the OP is looking for an alternative route.
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Post by Dawie » Mon Dec 31, 2007 1:00 pm

For the sake of his daughter he might want to think about staying with wife for the purposes of regularising his stay in the UK. It will be by far the best, if not the only, option he has.

As long as he and his wife are still legally married he is perfectly entitled to apply for a spouse visa.
In a few years time we'll look back on immigration control like we look back on American prohibition in the thirties - futile and counter-productive.

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Post by JA13I » Mon Dec 31, 2007 1:02 pm

Dawie wrote:As long as he and his wife are still legally married he is perfectly entitled to apply for a spouse visa.
Only as long as the wife supports the application as well. No way to do so without her support which, I suspect, could well be the case here.
Jabi

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