However when we looked up getting a marriage license the gov.uk site said that without ILR (which she won't have for 3 years) we need either to apply for a family visa (which she doesn't want to switch to) or else:
Our relationship is long term and we have a child together, but it started during the period she was on a spousal visa with her ex so we're unsure if it's wise to go down this route and are looking for advice/information on what the home office is likely to ask/care about!If you do not have a marriage visitor visa or family visa:
You can still give notice of your intention to get married or form a civil partnership but the immigration authorities at the Home Office will be told.
The Home Office might:
ask questions about you and your relationship - if this happens you may need to wait up to 70 days before getting married or forming a civil partnership
decide not to approve your notice - if this happens you cannot get married or form a civil partnership in the UK
Thanks and sorry if I posted in the wrong place!!