Advice on rights to my son

[Zam hussain]

I'm British got married in Pakistan. I got a nine year old son who I got a British passport for while he was still in Pakistan. I tried to call my now ex wife and son over but her visa got refused twice then I went to visit and she got a divorce through the courts in pakistan. Now she made a deal with me to send my son to me only if I agreed to let him come to her in school holidays. We agreed. Now my son came over and he wanted to stay with his mothers sister for a few days I left him there but when I went to collect him her sister told me I can't have him as my ex has said my son is to stay only with his mothers sister. Her sister now won't let me see my son and has said her sister is sending a latter saying only her sister can have my son. I told the police but they said I can't have him. Can someone please let me know if this is true. His mother is a Pakistani citizen and has never been to the uk. Is there a law stating that my ex can give my son to her sister and I can only visit him at her house. Many thanks

[CR001]

Your query is not immigration related. Family law in Pakistan is not relevant here. You cannot just 'give a child away' either.

However, if your son has a British passport and you are his father, then you have a right to see him if the court/divorce states joint custody.

[secret.simon]

Not an immigration matter at all. You should consult a family law forum or specialist lawyer.

EDIT: Beaten by 'speedy fingers' CR001.

[Zam hussain]

Sorry guys. I didn't know how to go about this problem. I will get intouch with a solicitor. Thanks for the advice

[Kashif_Hussain]

Hi,
You should contact British High Commission Islamabad, they might be able to help you.

General telephone
+92 51 201 2000

Email
Islamabad-general.enquiries@fco.gov.uk

If you’re in Pakistan and you need urgent help (for example, you’ve been attacked, arrested or someone has died), call +92 (0)51 201 2000. If you’re in the UK and worried about a British national in Pakistan, call 020 7008 1500.

[seagul]

Hi,
You should contact British High Commission Islamabad, they might be able to help you.

General telephone
+92 51 201 2000

Email
Islamabad-general.enquiries@fco.gov.uk

If you’re in Pakistan and you need urgent help (for example, you’ve been attacked, arrested or someone has died), call +92 (0)51 201 2000. If you’re in the UK and worried about a British national in Pakistan, call 020 7008 1500.

Good idea

[Londoner007]

What an evil women, an well executed plan, and what an gullible father.

So many stories of these things happening marrying in Pakistan and other areas. I so wish people reflected twice before marrying a cousin back home in Pakistan by default and look into marrying here in UK, so much less stress and Idiot spammer

[Zam hussain]

What an evil women, an well executed plan, and what an gullible father.

So many stories of these things happening marrying in Pakistan and other areas. I so wish people reflected twice before marrying a cousin back home in Pakistan by default and look into marrying here in UK, so much less stress and Idiot spammer

You are 100 per cent right. She wasn't my cousin but still a very evil woman. I just found out by the police that her family have sent him back to Pakistan and the police can not help me. Thank you everyone for the help and advice. I don't even know what to do now. I didn't even get to see my son before they sent him back. I been told that this was a plan to get my ex to uk by sending my son and then call her over saying she needs to be with her son. I made a big mistake getting married from Pakistan but I hope other people planing to get married from there should think it over a hundred times. Thank you once again everyone

[seagul]

Although its immigration forum but still would like my own factual seeing people experiences which is entirely opposite to yours. In now a days most people prefer a peaceful family oriented partner from back home than from UK and that's why paying a lot of fee on application. You are a father of British child and that matter may become a kidnapping where without your consent your child has been taken away & transported to other place.

[Zam hussain]

Although its immigration forum but still would like my own factual seeing people experiences which is entirely opposite to yours. In now a days most people prefer a peaceful family oriented partner from back home than from UK and that's why paying a lot of fee on application. You are a father of British child and that matter may become a kidnapping where without your consent your child has been taken away & transported to other place.

Seagul. I thought that the police would do them for kidnap but the police are saying they can not do anything even though I'm British and my son has a British passport. I don't understand why the police will not help me. My son was so happy to come over and I thought he would get a good education here and everything would be good for him. I understand what you mean by a peaceful life with a Pakistani but times have changed most of them just to any to get to uk and we are a one way ticket for them. The sad thing is the children suffer from all this and that is out of order. This woman I married has turned out to be a very selfish and evil woman but I'm not bothered about her I'm worried what my 9 year old son is now going through. He was hate for only one week. It was my fault for trusting his mother and her family I should of known better. I'm not going to give up I'm still going to fight for my dear son

[Kashif_Hussain]

Hi,
I don't understand the reason of you being here on this forum?
You should be in contact with British and Pakistani police and British High Commission in Islamabad !!!

It looks like your ex. took you son away without your consent, it's kind of kidnapping isn't it and it's serious and it's a matter of urgency so stop wasting your time here on the internet and call the police.

I hope your son is OK

Thanks

[Londoner007]

I wasn't implying you married a cousin, was just saying it is very prominent for Pakistani and even Bengali community to put priority in getting married back home, mostly due to parents have had done the same throughout generations. Not saying there is anything wrong with it, but you hear so many horror stories of the couple then being incompatible etc.

I think you need to see a family law specialist both in UK and Pakistan. Probably need to apply for sole responsibility in Pakistan, then once you get that (if your child is over 7 it will be easier) then you can get police in Pakistan to bring the child to you in Pakistan and then simply travel to UK.

Before you do anything, think of the best interest of the child, will he be happy without a mother near etc?

It's selfish evil people who do these things and dont care how it affects a child, even though they will pretend they do. I hope she sees sense and things workout for the best of the child, InshaAllah.